Love and Pain

In regards to the love-pains:  It seems to me that far too often we expect too much from our lovers.  Our perception of love comes from so many flawed sources.  Many come from idealistic stories from our childhood.  The fairy tales never match up with reality and we keep thinking there is something wrong with ourselves.  Weather that is true or not may never be known because the patterns that we are, are more complex than the mind can grasp.  All we can do is either decide to be open to others or not.  There is a feedback of information either way.  If you have done your internal work then when alone you can recharge yourself without looking for outside stimulus.  The internal work should then give you the strength and power to interact and coexist with others again.  All we can do then is try not to repeat our mistakes and search for new people who are different and can nurture and cocreate with our new, more evolved selves.There is love in all of the above stages / energy states but I do not think it is correlated with happiness.  The purpose of experince is for us to grow and contribute to the greater good in any way we can.  There is no guarantee that we will get the embodyment of what we want when we want it.  Pain seems to be a big part of the equation.  You will get exacty what you want in time, the form may be conceeled and sadly for our egos, may not be this lifetime.  Rejoice in this free breath in your new more liberated life